And if you’re feeling alone, know that the world can be a lonely place but it would be lonelier without you in it.
There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.” —John Lennon
Let us forget with generosity those who cannot love us.” —Pablo Neruda
Perks of Being A Wallflower is Love <3
Words are a heavy thing. They weigh you down. If birds talked, they couldn’t fly.
Don’t keep the past in your mind. Don’t stress over the future. Because if you’re too worried about what has already happened and what might happen, you can’t focus on what’s right in front of you. The present is what makes the future and what helps you move on from the past.
The reason people find it so hard to be happy is that they always see the past better than it was, the present worse than it is, and the future less resolved than it will be.
You try to see the best in everyone. But unhappy people are some of the hardest people to like. And that’s because they don’t like themselves much.
Sometimes, to lose balance in love is to gain balance in life.
Each of us represents a star in Heaven. Sometimes we shine with the rest, sometimes we twinkle alone and sometimes, when we least expect it, we make someone else’s dreams come true. Some people make the world special just be being in it.
So cheer up, you know yourself better than anybody else.
There’s a little bit of bad in the best of us, and a little bit of good in the worst of us. So none of us, bad or good, have any right to say anything about any of us.
Change has a considerable psychological impact on the human mind. To the fearful, it is threatening because it means that things may get worse. To the hopeful, it is encouraging because things may get better. To the confident, it is inspiring because the challenge exists to make things better.
Some people pass through your life and you never think about them again. Some you think about and wonder what ever happened to them. Some you wonder if they ever wonder what happened to you. And then there are some you wish you never had to think about again. But you do.
Do you even realize how negative you sound? No one wants to put up with that kind of attitude. You can’t fake sunny. Positive energy radiates from your core. I appreciate that you’re trying to smile at people, but I bet that’s just a coat of paint too.
You can’t smile with bitterness in your heart. Not really. Sure, your face will make the right shape, but people can tell that it’s not real. A smile is a projection of an emotional state of love, and if your conscious mind is fixated on negativity, it’s gonna come off looking awkward, or worse, fake.
I don’t know if I should be thankful that sometimes my dreams seem so real that when I wake up I have to check if it really happened. Then there are times when I don’t want to get out of the dream, just lay on my bed and close my eyes until something bizarre happens that will end up me waking up.
The best dreams are the ones you experience while you are awake. The dreams you worked hard for and achieved. Those things make life worth living for.
You can’t smile with bitterness in your heart. Not really. Sure, your face will make the right shape, but people can tell that it’s not real. A smile is a projection of an emotional state of love, and if your conscious mind is fixated on negativity, it’s gonna come off looking awkward, or worse, fake.
I don’t know if I should be thankful that sometimes my dreams seem so real that when I wake up I have to check if it really happened. Then there are times when I don’t want to get out of the dream, just lay on my bed and close my eyes until something bizarre happens that will end up me waking up.
The best dreams are the ones you experience while you are awake. The dreams you worked hard for and achieved. Those things make life worth living for.
There are things we easily forget. People we think are easily replaceable. Relationships we throw away because we think it’s not worth our time & effort. & then there are those that we can’t let go at all, no matter how bad the memories were. We hang on to them because when all is said & done, when people finally left & relationships weaken, memories are all we would ever have.
Sometimes people decide to just be friends, even if their feeling is mutual. Not because love is hard to sustain, but because commitment complicates everything.
Waking up one morning and not recognizing the person right in front of the mirror is one the scariest things. It’s like waking up from a coma, not knowing who you are and why you’re there. I have a thing for always saying “Yes”, for always doing things for the greater good, for thinking about what others’ might feel before I consider myself.
Breaking someone’s heart is never easy. Not knowing what you want is way harder than you could imagine. It’s like carrying a big rock inside your heart. You didn’t ask for these things to happen, you didn’t question why it has to happen to you out of billions of people out there.
I have to lose my pride. I have to lose some of my friends. But I can never lose my heart. And in that process, I lost myself.
“You ever look at a picture of yourself and see a stranger in the background? It makes you wonder how many strangers have pictures of you, how many moments of other peoples lives have we been in, we’re we a part of someone’s life when their dreams came true, or were we there when their dreams died. Did we keep trying to get in, as if we were somehow destined to be there, or did the shot take us by surprise. Just think, you could be a big part of someone else’s life, and not even know it.”
In life, we do things. Some we wish we had never done and some we wish we could replay a million times. But they all make us who we are and in the end they shape and detail us. If we were to reverse them, we wouldn’t be the person we are today. So just live, make mistakes and have wonderful memories. But never second guess who you are, where you’ve been and most importantly, where you’re going.
After a while, you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul. You learn that love doesn’t mean leaving and company doesn’t mean security. You begin to learn that kisses aren’t contracts and presents aren’t promises. You begin to accept your defeats with your head up and your eyes open, with the grace of an adult, not the grief of a child. You learn to build all your roads on today because tomorrow’s ground is too uncertain for plans. After a while, you learn that even sunshine burns if you get too much. So plant your own garden and decorate your own soul instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers. You learn that you really can endure, that you really are strong, and that you really do have worth. You learn that with every goodbye, there’s a hello.
“You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection.”
— Buddha
Live your life and be free. Make mistakes, take a few wrong turns, as long as you enjoy the scenery it makes the detour worthwhile.
There is nothing more badass than being who you are.
“I feel that there is nothing more truly artistic than to love people.”
— Vincent van Gogh
You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anybody.
You are adequate in every way, shape, and form.
Whatever task you do, whatever feat you attempt.
No matter whether you succeed, make a mistake, or fall short of your expectations.
Know that it is enough.
Know that the effort you put forth is just right.
That you are worthy in all ways.
That you exist, and therefore you matter.
And this is enough.
You are enough.
Always.
Someday. Somewhere. Someone.
You want to know what happiness is? It’s waking up in the middle of the night for no reason, shifting under the blankets and feeling the heat of the person next to you. You turn around and see them in their most peaceful, innocent, and vulnerable state. They breathe as though the weight of the world lays on anyone’s shoulder but their own. You smile, kiss their face in the most gentle manner so as not to wake them. You turn back around and an involuntary grin forms on your own face. You feel an arm wrap around your waist, and you know it doesn't get any better than this.
I don’t pretend to know what love is for everyone, but I can tell you what it is for me; love is knowing all about someone, & still wanting to be with them more than any other person. Love is trusting them enough to tell them everything about yourself, including the things you might be ashamed of. Love is feeling comfortable & safe with someone, but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room & smile at you
You know what your problem is? You get attached, fast. And once you’re attached to someone, you do everything you can to please them and make them happy. It’s never been about what you want, it’s always everyone’s needs before your own. You give out too many chances to people, who quite frankly, do not deserve them. They take advantage of you, and you become a pushover. But you’re okay with that, because they’re in your life and that’s all you ever really wanted. And even if they screw you over, you’ll still be there for them. Because that’s you, that’s who you are. Once you get attached to someone, they capture your heart and they always have a place there. And that is why it’s so hard for you to let him go
Each experience in your life was absolutely necessary in order to have gotten you to the next place, and the next, up until this very moment.
You don’t have to hold it together every second of every day. It’s okay to break down. It’s okay to cry. You’re not invincible, you’re human
You should never forget about the past, everything happens for a reason. instead, learn from the past, learn from your mistakes, and learn from every experience in life. never forget those that have changed you either for the good or the bad because they have made you who you are. always remember that life is meant to be tough, to challenge you, and to make you stronger.
Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over, it became a butterfly.
I love that feeling. You know, the one you get when you take a deep breath and suddenly everything feels like it’s going to be okay. When you’re hopeless as can be, and life is going nowhere, there’s those moments we have every now and then where we just stop, and we get this feeling, that can’t be described, but you just.. you just feel like everything really is going to be okay. Like the world stopped spinning for a second, and everything was clear. I need more of those moments.
There are things you don’t want to happen, but you have to accept. There are things you don’t want to know, but you have to learn. And there are people you can’t live without but you have to let go.
“Bad things are always going to happen in life. People will hurt you. But you can’t use that as an excuse to fail or to hurt someone back. You’ll only hurt yourself.”
You have to get hurt. That’s how you learn. The strongest people out there, the ones who laugh the hardest with a genuine smile, those are the people who have fought the toughest battles. Because they’ve decided that they’re not going to let anything hold them down, they’re showing the world who’s the boss.
“The only calibration that counts is how much heart people invest, how much they ignore their fears of being hurt or caught out or humiliated. And the only thing people regret is that they didn’t live boldly enough, that they didn’t invest enough heart, didn’t love enough.
You say you’re looking for happiness but when it comes, you run away from it. You tell yourself you don’t deserve it. There’s not much more that I can do, now the rest is up to you. Until you love yourself, you’ll never change. You’ll keep on running until you deal with today.
You are only as good as the love you have for other people.
There are things, you know, that people will never understand, no matter how long they look or how hard they try. I think that you and i are one of those things.
This is life. People will screw you over. You’ll fight with your family. You’ll witness things that will change you forever. You’ll blame new lovers for things old lovers did. You’ll lose best friends you thought would always be there. You’ll come to realize that everyone has a past. You’ll cry, you’ll laugh, and you’ll embarrass yourself. But then, you’ll find your very own moment where none of that matters; where you can sit back and realize that shit happens to the people who can handle it and that this is who you are, and that no one should want to change you, including yourself.
I learned a lot about friendships. I lost people that were once my best friends. I lost old friendships that I thought would last beyond high school. People I once trusted ended up showing me the opposite. Although I lost those people, I also built more valuable relationships with the people who stayed. I kept the friends that really mattered. I gained stronger friendships with people who were there for me. I realized that besides family, I only have a few people I can truly rely on, but that’s okay. Having a huge group of friends isn’t that great when most can care less about you. In the end, having a few valuable friendships with people who really have your back is always worth so much more.
Our love story will be the greatest one ever told. But we will tell it to no one. Some things are best kept secret, like the way our lips touched without direction. The way our hands linked like they were molded to each other. The way our hearts beat rapidly against our skin when my body was on yours, nervous and seemingly out of sync.
Learn to let go of the past, and recognize that every day won’t be sunny. And when you find yourself lost in the darkness and despair, remember it’s only in the black of night that you see the stars, and those stars will lead you back home. So don’t be afraid to make mistakes, to stumble and fall, because most of the time, the greatest rewards come from doing the things that scare you the most. Maybe you’ll get everything you wish for. Maybe you’ll get more than you ever could have imagined. Who knows where life will take you. The road is long and in the end, the journey is the destination.
Follow your heart and not your head; your heart is usually right. Life is too short to live it so seriously. Take a chance, it’ll turn out better than you expect. Clichés are overused for a reason.
Bottom line is, even if you see them coming, you’re not ready for the big moments. No one asks for their life to change, not really. But it does. So, what are we, helpless? Puppets? Nah. The big moments are gonna come, you can’t help that. It’s what you do afterwards that counts. That’s when you find out who you are.
I wonder if one day when you look back on your life you’ll see it’s not always about the big picture. It’s really all about the moments and maybe one day you’ll look back and string all those moments together and then you’ll realize when you add them all up, your life is more meaningful than you could have dreamed.
You only find a few people in this world, a few people who will tell you they love you and actually mean it with all their heart. Don’t forget those people who stood by you through it all, the special few that were there for you until the end.
Maybe the deepest part of who we are is what scares us or breaks our hearts and we don’t want to share that with anyone and when we do, we don’t want to lose those people.
It’s better to love someone you can’t have than have someone who doesn’t know your worth.
Like a wave, this will always roll over exactly how it’s meant to.
Even if the initial reaction pulls you under. Even if you don’t understand reasons why.
Sometimes you get in too deep, dragged under, spun around, and end up dumped on the shore. That’s life. Get yourself back up, learn a lesson, and do it again a different way.
You can’t always control how you feel, but you can control what you say and do. Don’t take the easy way out, cause the easy way and the right way are rarely the same.
For women the best aphrodisiacs are words. The G-spot is in the ears. He who looks for it below there is wasting his time.
Everybody can be freed from nightmares, from sufferings, from miseries, but of course not directly. The problem is that you cannot be freed from your suffering directly because you are clinging to it. It is not the suffering that is the problem, it is you who are clinging which is the problem. You don’t want to leave it. You brag about it, you talk about it. You even talk about how to get out of this misery. But one who has eyes can see that you are clinging to the misery as hard as possible. Just the presence of a master can help you to see whether the misery is clinging to you, or you are clinging to the misery. That is a very decisive point. Once you see that you are clinging to the misery, you are freed. Just the seeing of it, the very understanding, is freedom.
“The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company… a church… a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past… we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you… we are in charge of our Attitudes.”
Charles R. Swindoll
If love and beauty were easy to find, they would not exist.
Chaos and sadness exist in order for you to find the love and beauty in them. So that love and beauty mean something.
It’s meant to be hard.
When you read, you go through a series of steps, all of which are personal. To you. And you alone. Your eyes see the symbols joined together to make words, the graphical representations of sounds. These sounds are then translated into meaning. They are given voice by your observation of them. You have no choice in the matter.
Try to not read this sentence.
Thousands of people may read this but each of them will read it in their own way. It is unique to them.
To you. That is why I wrote it.
Because you are unique in your voice and your way. You are special. A unique aspect of a glimmering whole. We are all the whole. But you alone are you. And because I speak to you and you alone, intimately, I know you as well as I know myself.
And that is why I have the faith I do in you. You will be great. You will be amazing.
You will change the world. I know you.
People may walk in and out of your life. But only a few leave footprints on your heart.
You’re not afraid of the dark, you’re afraid of what’s in it. You’re not afraid of heights, you’re afraid of the pain from falling. You’re not afraid of those around you, you’re just afraid of rejection. You’re not afraid of love, you’re just afraid of not being loved back. And you’re not afraid to try again, you’re just afraid of getting hurt for the same reason.
Even the happiest of people are all screwed up inside. + Rebecca Hope
There’s something to be said about a glass half full. About knowing when to say when. I think it’s a floating line. A barometer of need and desire. It’s entirely up to the individual. And depends on what’s being poured. Sometimes all we want is a taste. Other times there’s no such thing as enough, the glass is bottomless. And all we want is more.
People are always talking about how hard it is to find a good man, but these days it’s hard to even find a good person. It’s so hard to even find a person to talk to; someone who will just listen and not judge, someone who will just take you as you are.
“I am not my body. My body is nothing without me.” Tom Stoppard
I am a soul
Full of life, light, and energy.
I am a mind.
Hungry for knowledge; highly inquisitive; constantly thinking; perpetually processing.
I am a spirit.
Awash with feeling; driven by passion; inspired by those i love.
My body is not but a vessel, carrying my essence.
Without me, my body is nothing but a mass of elements and water.
Without my soul, mind, and spirit, my body is lifeless.
I am not defined by the size of my body, or my weight on the scale.
I am defined by the size of my heart and the weight of my words.
I am defined by my attitude and morals, by character and the way in which I treat others.
I am defined by who i am, not my body.
We are of infinite worth.This rings true for everyone, everywhere, forevermore.
Life is too short to waste your time for someone who is unworthy of your love. It is so sad that the right person won’t be able to look for you because you’re busy all your life making the wrong person right for you.
I am strong because I am weak. I am beautiful because I know my flaws. I am a lover because I’m a fighter. I am fearless because I have been afraid. I am wise because I have been foolish and I can laugh because I’ve known sadness.
People universally tend to think that happiness is a stroke of luck, something that will maybe descend upon you like fine weather if you are fortunate enough. But that’s not how happiness works. Happiness is the consequence of personal effort. You fight for it, strive for it, insist upon it, and sometimes even travel around the world looking for it. You have to participate relentlessly in the manifestations of your own blessings. And once you have achieved a state of happiness, you must never become lax about maintaining it…
- Eat, Pray, Love
Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all which have the potential to turn a life around.
- Living, Loving, & Learning by Leo Buscaglia
This is an important lesson to remember when you’re having a bad day, a bad month, or a shitty year. Things will change: you won’t feel this way forever. And anyway, sometimes the hardest lessons to learn are the ones your soul needs most. I believe you can’t feel real joy unless you’ve felt heartache. You can’t have a sense of victory unless you know what it means to fail. You can’t know what it’s like to feel holy until you know what it’s like to feel really fucking evil. And you can’t be birthed again until you’ve died.
‘Forgive and forget,’ that’s what they say. It’s good advice, but it’s not very practical. When someone hurts us, we want to hurt them back; when someone wrongs us, we want to be right. Without forgiveness, old scores are never settled, old wounds never heal, and the most we can hope for is one day we’ll be lucky enough to forget.
Optimism is key. If you expect the worst, the worst will happen. you are your own stress, your own anger, your own sadness, and frustration. If you let things both you, they will. So don’t let them. Just be happy. nothing in life is easy, so make the best of it. Don’t dwell on the negatives. optimism is key.
But maybe that’s what it all comes down to. Love, not as a surge of passion, but as a choice to commit to something, someone, no matter what obstacles or temptations stand in the way. And maybe making that choice, again and again, day in and day out, year after year, says more about love than never having a choice to make at all.
The only way out of the labyrinth of suffering is to forgive.
There are so many of us who will have to live with things done and things left undone. Things that did not go right, things that seemed okay at the time because we could not see the future. If only we could see the endless string of consequences that result from our smallest actions.
But life only moves forward, and once the doors of yesterday are closed, there is no going back.
We are human—imperfect beings bound to make mistakes.
Our mistakes are necessary, vital for our growth, understanding of life, and journey of self-discovery.
There will always be people in life who will hurt us and let us down; they’re human too.
We think that by holding onto our feelings of hate and anger that we are damaging those who have pained us, but in reality we are only furthering our own pain—only perpetuating our stay in the labyrinth.
To forgive does not mean to condone.
It simply means to let go.
To let go of what has happened in the past, to release yourself of the damaging feelings, and to be free of the hurt.
Shame and hate directed towards the self keep us prisoners to the labyrinth for the longest.
There will always be times in our life when our performance will fall short of the expectation, whether they be our own hopes or those of someone else.
We can choose to let shame and sadness consume us because we didn’t “do it right”, because it wasn’t perfect.
Or we can acknowledge that in life, nothing is set is stone. That opportunities are given to us everyday, each moment, and forgiveness of our mistakes gives way for their presence in our lives.
But most of all, we can choose to forgive ourselves.
To treat our hurting soul like an old friend, with warmth, compassion, and understanding.
You can choose to learn from the hurt, gain strength from the pain, and utilize the bitterness of the situation to truly appreciate the bliss of happiness.
You can choose to forgive and to let go.
Your attitude is yours for the choosing.
We may play a major role in bringing ourselves into the labyrinth of suffering, but we are also the key that leads to the way out.
When I am able to resist the temptation to judge others, I can see them as teachers of forgiveness in my life, reminding me that I can only have peace of mind when I forgive rather than judge.
That is the simple secret of happiness. Whatever you are doing, don’t let past move your mind; don’t let future disturb you. Because the past is no more, and the future is not yet. To live in the memories, to live in the imagination, is to live in the non-existential. And when you are living in the non-existential, you are missing that which is existential. Naturally you will be miserable, because you will miss your whole life.
I hope you will have a wonderful year, that you’ll dream dangerously and outrageously, that you’ll make something that didn’t exist before you made it, that you will be loved and that you will be liked, and that you will have people to love and to like in return. And, most importantly (because I think there should be more kindness and more wisdom in the world right now), that you will, when you need to be, be wise, and that you will always be kind.
We have all had those days when we would much rather hide under the covers and avoid life at all costs.
Whether it was fear, anxiety, depression, or simply laziness which drove us into isolation, we believed that we would find safety by escaping the world.
What we didn’t always know, and what we still may forget on occasion, is that retreating into bed only perpetuates our fears and sadness.
The only way to truly escape and be free however is to engage in life - to come out from underneath the covers, as scary and anxiety-provoking as it may feel, and face the world.
The more fully we engage in life and surround ourselves with other people, the closer we will come to the serenity we have been longing for.
It is easy to shield ourselves from the opportunities each day offers us, simply by hiding in bed.
Fear fosters inactivity, leaving us separate, alone, and even more afraid.
We have an appointment with life each day.
By waking up each morning and greeting the new day—by showing up to the appointment and not avoiding life, by engaging in it fully and whole-heartedly, we come to a place of understanding.
We become certain that things will be okay.
This too shall pass.
And that in the grand scheme of the universe, life is good.
We push ourselves so we can have a better tomorrow. Why can’t we push to have a better today? We work hard so that we will appreciate life in the future. Why can’t we appreciate what we have right now, today? We worry about dying and forever being forgotten. Why can’t we focus on living in the present and being remembered in the heart of a single individual by making a difference in their life, today?
“Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.” Buddha
So share your light; feed the dying flame of another.
Let your very essence flow into those around you; give unconditionally—because you can.
Because it can do no harm.
Because it can do so much right.
Because you can touch the life of another, and in the process, aid your own healing process.
The lights will never go out, so long as we continue to share them.
We will forever glow, so long as we will it.
Eat the damn chocolate cake, get your hair wet, love someone, dance in those muddy puddles, tell someone off, draw a picture with crayons like you’re still 6 years old and then give it to someone who is very important to you. Take a nap, go on vacation, do a cartwheel, make your own recipe, dance like no one sees you, paint each nail a different color, take a bubble bath, laugh at a corny joke. Get on that table and dance, pick strawberries, take a jog, plant a garden, make an ugly shirt and wear it all day. Learn a new language, write a song, date someone you wouldn’t usually go for, make a scrap book, go on a picnic, relax in the sun, make your own home video, kiss the un-kissed, hug the un-hugged, love the unloved, and live your life to the fullest. So at the end of the day, you’ll have no regrets, no sorrows, no disappointments.
There is no black and white. I am colorful.
There is no perfection. I am flawed. These flaws are beautiful. They make me, me.
There are no stereotypes. I am my own unique person. I am graced with an individual genetic blue print that is like no other person’s on the planet.
There is no failure. Failure is an event, never a person. I am growing, expanding my horizons, building my strength. I welcome mistakes.
There is no reason for me to ever change to fit the standards or opinions of another human being.
I am okay exactly as I am.
5 facts:
1. OUR WEIGHT, BODY SHAPE, and SIZE do not define us.
2. We are defined by our CHARACTERISTICS, our ATTITUDE, GOALS, MORALS, and WAYS IN WHICH WE TREAT OTHERS.
3. Scales are not even 100% accurate. In order to be as such, they have to be calibrated every couple days. Therefore, the number we see is always a little off.
4. Our weight fluctuates every day, hour, and minute due to our water intake and the humidity in the air. Some days we retain more water and the scale may read higher, and other days we may sweat more and thus the scale will read lower.
5. Weighing yourself only makes us feel worse. So why put ourselves through that misery? Why set ourselves up for disappointment?
CONCLUSION: Throw away the scale! Get rid of it! Make it scarce! It does not measure our worth as a person in any way shape or form.
Our bodies know the weight they like to be at. They will naturally regulate themselves and send us appropriate hunger and satiation signals to help us get to the right weight WITHOUT THE USE OF diets or a scale—both of which are unnatural to human nature.
Treat yourself with respect. This includes our body. Defend it like a companion.
It is your home. It is the only place you will have to life for the rest of your life.
Give it love.
Happiness is an attitude. We either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong. The amount of work is the same.
People are like stained glass windows: they sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light within.
So be you. You are okay exactly as you are.
You do not need to change for anyone. Any person who requires us to do such is not worth our time or effort.
Their request for our change does not mean we are inadequate, but simply that they are troubled and ignorant. Their request is solely a reflection on them.
Our unique characteristics and quirks are beautiful. they make us, us. Our flaws are beautiful. They prove we are human. They help us grow, strengthen ourselves, and learn from our mistakes.
The person we are is our most precious treasure. To trade such an entity, is to lose our soul; to betray ourselves. It is the ultimate lie.
“Perfection is a flaw.”
We strive for this ideal. we push ourselves beyond all limits to attain this perceived “perfection”, yet disappoint ourselves, because it is unachievable.
We will never reach it, because it does not exist.
We are human beings. we have flaws; we make mistakes.
If perfection existed, we would be nothing more than robots—thoughtless, predictable, dull, humanoids.
Our flaws and imperfections make life worth living. They give us something to work towards and something to fight for.
If everything was perfect, if this ideal of “perfection” existed, everything would be boring and stagnant—every action expected.
If we were to be “perfect” at everything, there would be no challenge, no thrill, no risk, no struggle, nothing to learn from—and thus no point; nothing to motivate us.
Therefore, perfection not only does not exist, but any desire to attain it is a flaw of character in itself, because as human beings, we are meant to have imperfections.
We are meant to be imperfect.
These flaws are human. They are okay. We are okay.
We can rectify and learn from our flaws and mistakes.
We have that power.
Forever and always.
You do your best when you are having fun and enjoying what you do.
When you are performing or executing it in a way that will not have negative repercussions for you.
You do your best because you want to do it.
Not because you have to.
Not because you are trying to please a judge.
And not because you are trying to make other people happy.
You do your best when you do it for you.
Because it is something you love.
You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anybody.
You are adequate in every way, shape, and form.
Whatever task you do, whatever feat you attempt.
No matter whether you succeed, make a mistake, or fall short of your expectations.
Know that it is enough.
Know that the effort you put forth is just right.
That you are worthy in all ways.
That you exist, and therefore you matter.
And this is enough.
You are enough.
Always.
Someday. Somewhere. Someone.
Sometimes it’s better when things aren’t perfect. At least that way, you know it’s real.
I don’t pretend to know what love is for everyone, but I can tell you what it is for me; love is knowing all about someone, & still wanting to be with them more than any other person. Love is trusting them enough to tell them everything about yourself, including the things you might be ashamed of. Love is feeling comfortable & safe with someone, but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room & smile at you
You know what your problem is? You get attached, fast. And once you’re attached to someone, you do everything you can to please them and make them happy. It’s never been about what you want, it’s always everyone’s needs before your own. You give out too many chances to people, who quite frankly, do not deserve them. They take advantage of you, and you become a pushover. But you’re okay with that, because they’re in your life and that’s all you ever really wanted. And even if they screw you over, you’ll still be there for them. Because that’s you, that’s who you are. Once you get attached to someone, they capture your heart and they always have a place there. And that is why it’s so hard for you to let him go
Each experience in your life was absolutely necessary in order to have gotten you to the next place, and the next, up until this very moment.
You don’t have to hold it together every second of every day. It’s okay to break down. It’s okay to cry. You’re not invincible, you’re human
You should never forget about the past, everything happens for a reason. instead, learn from the past, learn from your mistakes, and learn from every experience in life. never forget those that have changed you either for the good or the bad because they have made you who you are. always remember that life is meant to be tough, to challenge you, and to make you stronger.
Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over, it became a butterfly.
I love that feeling. You know, the one you get when you take a deep breath and suddenly everything feels like it’s going to be okay. When you’re hopeless as can be, and life is going nowhere, there’s those moments we have every now and then where we just stop, and we get this feeling, that can’t be described, but you just.. you just feel like everything really is going to be okay. Like the world stopped spinning for a second, and everything was clear. I need more of those moments.
There are things you don’t want to happen, but you have to accept. There are things you don’t want to know, but you have to learn. And there are people you can’t live without but you have to let go.
“Bad things are always going to happen in life. People will hurt you. But you can’t use that as an excuse to fail or to hurt someone back. You’ll only hurt yourself.”
You have to get hurt. That’s how you learn. The strongest people out there, the ones who laugh the hardest with a genuine smile, those are the people who have fought the toughest battles. Because they’ve decided that they’re not going to let anything hold them down, they’re showing the world who’s the boss.
“The only calibration that counts is how much heart people invest, how much they ignore their fears of being hurt or caught out or humiliated. And the only thing people regret is that they didn’t live boldly enough, that they didn’t invest enough heart, didn’t love enough.
You say you’re looking for happiness but when it comes, you run away from it. You tell yourself you don’t deserve it. There’s not much more that I can do, now the rest is up to you. Until you love yourself, you’ll never change. You’ll keep on running until you deal with today.
You are only as good as the love you have for other people.
There are things, you know, that people will never understand, no matter how long they look or how hard they try. I think that you and i are one of those things.
This is life. People will screw you over. You’ll fight with your family. You’ll witness things that will change you forever. You’ll blame new lovers for things old lovers did. You’ll lose best friends you thought would always be there. You’ll come to realize that everyone has a past. You’ll cry, you’ll laugh, and you’ll embarrass yourself. But then, you’ll find your very own moment where none of that matters; where you can sit back and realize that shit happens to the people who can handle it and that this is who you are, and that no one should want to change you, including yourself.
Well, the wind is real, but you can’t see the wind. You know, you can only see the leaves rustling in the trees. Pain is real but you can’t see pain. You can only see tears. Happiness is real, but you can’t see happiness. You can only see the smile on someone’s face.
There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative.
I learned a lot about friendships. I lost people that were once my best friends. I lost old friendships that I thought would last beyond high school. People I once trusted ended up showing me the opposite. Although I lost those people, I also built more valuable relationships with the people who stayed. I kept the friends that really mattered. I gained stronger friendships with people who were there for me. I realized that besides family, I only have a few people I can truly rely on, but that’s okay. Having a huge group of friends isn’t that great when most can care less about you. In the end, having a few valuable friendships with people who really have your back is always worth so much more.
Our love story will be the greatest one ever told. But we will tell it to no one. Some things are best kept secret, like the way our lips touched without direction. The way our hands linked like they were molded to each other. The way our hearts beat rapidly against our skin when my body was on yours, nervous and seemingly out of sync.
Learn to let go of the past, and recognize that every day won’t be sunny. And when you find yourself lost in the darkness and despair, remember it’s only in the black of night that you see the stars, and those stars will lead you back home. So don’t be afraid to make mistakes, to stumble and fall, because most of the time, the greatest rewards come from doing the things that scare you the most. Maybe you’ll get everything you wish for. Maybe you’ll get more than you ever could have imagined. Who knows where life will take you. The road is long and in the end, the journey is the destination.
Follow your heart and not your head; your heart is usually right. Life is too short to live it so seriously. Take a chance, it’ll turn out better than you expect. Clichés are overused for a reason.
Bottom line is, even if you see them coming, you’re not ready for the big moments. No one asks for their life to change, not really. But it does. So, what are we, helpless? Puppets? Nah. The big moments are gonna come, you can’t help that. It’s what you do afterwards that counts. That’s when you find out who you are.
I wonder if one day when you look back on your life you’ll see it’s not always about the big picture. It’s really all about the moments and maybe one day you’ll look back and string all those moments together and then you’ll realize when you add them all up, your life is more meaningful than you could have dreamed.
You only find a few people in this world, a few people who will tell you they love you and actually mean it with all their heart. Don’t forget those people who stood by you through it all, the special few that were there for you until the end.
Maybe the deepest part of who we are is what scares us or breaks our hearts and we don’t want to share that with anyone and when we do, we don’t want to lose those people.
It’s better to love someone you can’t have than have someone who doesn’t know your worth.
Like a wave, this will always roll over exactly how it’s meant to.
Even if the initial reaction pulls you under. Even if you don’t understand reasons why.
Sometimes you get in too deep, dragged under, spun around, and end up dumped on the shore. That’s life. Get yourself back up, learn a lesson, and do it again a different way.
You can’t always control how you feel, but you can control what you say and do. Don’t take the easy way out, cause the easy way and the right way are rarely the same.
For women the best aphrodisiacs are words. The G-spot is in the ears. He who looks for it below there is wasting his time.
Everybody can be freed from nightmares, from sufferings, from miseries, but of course not directly. The problem is that you cannot be freed from your suffering directly because you are clinging to it. It is not the suffering that is the problem, it is you who are clinging which is the problem. You don’t want to leave it. You brag about it, you talk about it. You even talk about how to get out of this misery. But one who has eyes can see that you are clinging to the misery as hard as possible. Just the presence of a master can help you to see whether the misery is clinging to you, or you are clinging to the misery. That is a very decisive point. Once you see that you are clinging to the misery, you are freed. Just the seeing of it, the very understanding, is freedom.
“The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company… a church… a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past… we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you… we are in charge of our Attitudes.”
Charles R. Swindoll
If love and beauty were easy to find, they would not exist.
Chaos and sadness exist in order for you to find the love and beauty in them. So that love and beauty mean something.
It’s meant to be hard.
I’ve learned this past year. I’ve changed, I’ve grown and maybe things do happen for a reason. Maybe they don’t. But no matter what, they still happen. That’s what we need to remember. I learned to stop analyzing things, to just let them happen. And if I get hurt, or if something bad happens, there’s nothing I can do to change that. I’ve learned to go with my gut, and that it’s okay to make mistakes because the ones that matter won’t care. I’ve learned that love really is as great as they say it is. I’ve learned that your friends can save you from your worst enemy: yourself. And most importantly, I’ve learned that today is all we have.
When you read, you go through a series of steps, all of which are personal. To you. And you alone. Your eyes see the symbols joined together to make words, the graphical representations of sounds. These sounds are then translated into meaning. They are given voice by your observation of them. You have no choice in the matter.
Try to not read this sentence.
Thousands of people may read this but each of them will read it in their own way. It is unique to them.
To you. That is why I wrote it.
Because you are unique in your voice and your way. You are special. A unique aspect of a glimmering whole. We are all the whole. But you alone are you. And because I speak to you and you alone, intimately, I know you as well as I know myself.
And that is why I have the faith I do in you. You will be great. You will be amazing.
You will change the world. I know you.
People may walk in and out of your life. But only a few leave footprints on your heart.
You’re not afraid of the dark, you’re afraid of what’s in it. You’re not afraid of heights, you’re afraid of the pain from falling. You’re not afraid of those around you, you’re just afraid of rejection. You’re not afraid of love, you’re just afraid of not being loved back. And you’re not afraid to try again, you’re just afraid of getting hurt for the same reason.
Even the happiest of people are all screwed up inside. + Rebecca Hope
There’s something to be said about a glass half full. About knowing when to say when. I think it’s a floating line. A barometer of need and desire. It’s entirely up to the individual. And depends on what’s being poured. Sometimes all we want is a taste. Other times there’s no such thing as enough, the glass is bottomless. And all we want is more.
People are always talking about how hard it is to find a good man, but these days it’s hard to even find a good person. It’s so hard to even find a person to talk to; someone who will just listen and not judge, someone who will just take you as you are.
“I am not my body. My body is nothing without me.” Tom Stoppard
I am a soul
Full of life, light, and energy.
I am a mind.
Hungry for knowledge; highly inquisitive; constantly thinking; perpetually processing.
I am a spirit.
Awash with feeling; driven by passion; inspired by those i love.
My body is not but a vessel, carrying my essence.
Without me, my body is nothing but a mass of elements and water.
Without my soul, mind, and spirit, my body is lifeless.
I am not defined by the size of my body, or my weight on the scale.
I am defined by the size of my heart and the weight of my words.
I am defined by my attitude and morals, by character and the way in which I treat others.
I am defined by who i am, not my body.
We are of infinite worth.This rings true for everyone, everywhere, forevermore.
Life is too short to waste your time for someone who is unworthy of your love. It is so sad that the right person won’t be able to look for you because you’re busy all your life making the wrong person right for you.
I am strong because I am weak. I am beautiful because I know my flaws. I am a lover because I’m a fighter. I am fearless because I have been afraid. I am wise because I have been foolish and I can laugh because I’ve known sadness.
People universally tend to think that happiness is a stroke of luck, something that will maybe descend upon you like fine weather if you are fortunate enough. But that’s not how happiness works. Happiness is the consequence of personal effort. You fight for it, strive for it, insist upon it, and sometimes even travel around the world looking for it. You have to participate relentlessly in the manifestations of your own blessings. And once you have achieved a state of happiness, you must never become lax about maintaining it…
- Eat, Pray, Love
Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all which have the potential to turn a life around.
- Living, Loving, & Learning by Leo Buscaglia
I got everything i need right here with me. I got the air in my lungs and a few blank sheets of paper. I love waking up in the morning not knowing what’s gonna happen or who I’m gonna meet. I figure life’s a gift and I don’t intend on wasting it. You never know what hand you’re gonna dealt next. You wanna take life as it comes at you - To make each day count.
This is an important lesson to remember when you’re having a bad day, a bad month, or a shitty year. Things will change: you won’t feel this way forever. And anyway, sometimes the hardest lessons to learn are the ones your soul needs most. I believe you can’t feel real joy unless you’ve felt heartache. You can’t have a sense of victory unless you know what it means to fail. You can’t know what it’s like to feel holy until you know what it’s like to feel really fucking evil. And you can’t be birthed again until you’ve died.
‘Forgive and forget,’ that’s what they say. It’s good advice, but it’s not very practical. When someone hurts us, we want to hurt them back; when someone wrongs us, we want to be right. Without forgiveness, old scores are never settled, old wounds never heal, and the most we can hope for is one day we’ll be lucky enough to forget.
Optimism is key. If you expect the worst, the worst will happen. you are your own stress, your own anger, your own sadness, and frustration. If you let things both you, they will. So don’t let them. Just be happy. nothing in life is easy, so make the best of it. Don’t dwell on the negatives. optimism is key.
But maybe that’s what it all comes down to. Love, not as a surge of passion, but as a choice to commit to something, someone, no matter what obstacles or temptations stand in the way. And maybe making that choice, again and again, day in and day out, year after year, says more about love than never having a choice to make at all.
The only way out of the labyrinth of suffering is to forgive.
There are so many of us who will have to live with things done and things left undone. Things that did not go right, things that seemed okay at the time because we could not see the future. If only we could see the endless string of consequences that result from our smallest actions.
But life only moves forward, and once the doors of yesterday are closed, there is no going back.
We are human—imperfect beings bound to make mistakes.
Our mistakes are necessary, vital for our growth, understanding of life, and journey of self-discovery.
There will always be people in life who will hurt us and let us down; they’re human too.
We think that by holding onto our feelings of hate and anger that we are damaging those who have pained us, but in reality we are only furthering our own pain—only perpetuating our stay in the labyrinth.
To forgive does not mean to condone.
It simply means to let go.
To let go of what has happened in the past, to release yourself of the damaging feelings, and to be free of the hurt.
Shame and hate directed towards the self keep us prisoners to the labyrinth for the longest.
There will always be times in our life when our performance will fall short of the expectation, whether they be our own hopes or those of someone else.
We can choose to let shame and sadness consume us because we didn’t “do it right”, because it wasn’t perfect.
Or we can acknowledge that in life, nothing is set is stone. That opportunities are given to us everyday, each moment, and forgiveness of our mistakes gives way for their presence in our lives.
But most of all, we can choose to forgive ourselves.
To treat our hurting soul like an old friend, with warmth, compassion, and understanding.
You can choose to learn from the hurt, gain strength from the pain, and utilize the bitterness of the situation to truly appreciate the bliss of happiness.
You can choose to forgive and to let go.
Your attitude is yours for the choosing.
We may play a major role in bringing ourselves into the labyrinth of suffering, but we are also the key that leads to the way out.
When I am able to resist the temptation to judge others, I can see them as teachers of forgiveness in my life, reminding me that I can only have peace of mind when I forgive rather than judge.
That is the simple secret of happiness. Whatever you are doing, don’t let past move your mind; don’t let future disturb you. Because the past is no more, and the future is not yet. To live in the memories, to live in the imagination, is to live in the non-existential. And when you are living in the non-existential, you are missing that which is existential. Naturally you will be miserable, because you will miss your whole life.
I hope you will have a wonderful year, that you’ll dream dangerously and outrageously, that you’ll make something that didn’t exist before you made it, that you will be loved and that you will be liked, and that you will have people to love and to like in return. And, most importantly (because I think there should be more kindness and more wisdom in the world right now), that you will, when you need to be, be wise, and that you will always be kind.
We have all had those days when we would much rather hide under the covers and avoid life at all costs.
Whether it was fear, anxiety, depression, or simply laziness which drove us into isolation, we believed that we would find safety by escaping the world.
What we didn’t always know, and what we still may forget on occasion, is that retreating into bed only perpetuates our fears and sadness.
The only way to truly escape and be free however is to engage in life - to come out from underneath the covers, as scary and anxiety-provoking as it may feel, and face the world.
The more fully we engage in life and surround ourselves with other people, the closer we will come to the serenity we have been longing for.
It is easy to shield ourselves from the opportunities each day offers us, simply by hiding in bed.
Fear fosters inactivity, leaving us separate, alone, and even more afraid.
We have an appointment with life each day.
By waking up each morning and greeting the new day—by showing up to the appointment and not avoiding life, by engaging in it fully and whole-heartedly, we come to a place of understanding.
We become certain that things will be okay.
This too shall pass.
And that in the grand scheme of the universe, life is good.
Each day we are faced with conditions we would like to change and people we wish were different.
Unfortunately, the only being and entity we have complete control over and responsibility for, is yourself.
Accepting that we cannot change certain people and situations takes growth, patience, and tolerance.
We are so easily enticed into thinking that we would be happier, “if only he would change,” or “if only i had a higher paying job”.
“If only she liked me back”
“If only i was accepted into their club”
If only. If only.
Yet, we carry the seed of happiness within us every moment.
“People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Abraham lincoln
Happiness isn’t a person or a possession—it’s a state of mind.
Learning tolerance for such conditions will nurture the seed within you.
Tolerance of others opens many doors, for them and for you.
It nurtures the soul—yours and theirs.
It breeds happiness.
We push ourselves so we can have a better tomorrow. Why can’t we push to have a better today? We work hard so that we will appreciate life in the future. Why can’t we appreciate what we have right now, today? We worry about dying and forever being forgotten. Why can’t we focus on living in the present and being remembered in the heart of a single individual by making a difference in their life, today?
“Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.” Buddha
So share your light; feed the dying flame of another.
Let your very essence flow into those around you; give unconditionally—because you can.
Because it can do no harm.
Because it can do so much right.
Because you can touch the life of another, and in the process, aid your own healing process.
The lights will never go out, so long as we continue to share them.
We will forever glow, so long as we will it.
Eat the damn chocolate cake, get your hair wet, love someone, dance in those muddy puddles, tell someone off, draw a picture with crayons like you’re still 6 years old and then give it to someone who is very important to you. Take a nap, go on vacation, do a cartwheel, make your own recipe, dance like no one sees you, paint each nail a different color, take a bubble bath, laugh at a corny joke. Get on that table and dance, pick strawberries, take a jog, plant a garden, make an ugly shirt and wear it all day. Learn a new language, write a song, date someone you wouldn’t usually go for, make a scrap book, go on a picnic, relax in the sun, make your own home video, kiss the un-kissed, hug the un-hugged, love the unloved, and live your life to the fullest. So at the end of the day, you’ll have no regrets, no sorrows, no disappointments.
There is no black and white. I am colorful.
There is no perfection. I am flawed. These flaws are beautiful. They make me, me.
There are no stereotypes. I am my own unique person. I am graced with an individual genetic blue print that is like no other person’s on the planet.
There is no failure. Failure is an event, never a person. I am growing, expanding my horizons, building my strength. I welcome mistakes.
There is no reason for me to ever change to fit the standards or opinions of another human being.
I am okay exactly as I am.
5 facts:
1. OUR WEIGHT, BODY SHAPE, and SIZE do not define us.
2. We are defined by our CHARACTERISTICS, our ATTITUDE, GOALS, MORALS, and WAYS IN WHICH WE TREAT OTHERS.
3. Scales are not even 100% accurate. In order to be as such, they have to be calibrated every couple days. Therefore, the number we see is always a little off.
4. Our weight fluctuates every day, hour, and minute due to our water intake and the humidity in the air. Some days we retain more water and the scale may read higher, and other days we may sweat more and thus the scale will read lower.
5. Weighing yourself only makes us feel worse. So why put ourselves through that misery? Why set ourselves up for disappointment?
CONCLUSION: Throw away the scale! Get rid of it! Make it scarce! It does not measure our worth as a person in any way shape or form.
Our bodies know the weight they like to be at. They will naturally regulate themselves and send us appropriate hunger and satiation signals to help us get to the right weight WITHOUT THE USE OF diets or a scale—both of which are unnatural to human nature.
Treat yourself with respect. This includes our body. Defend it like a companion.
It is your home. It is the only place you will have to life for the rest of your life.
Give it love.
Happiness is an attitude. We either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong. The amount of work is the same.
People are like stained glass windows: they sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light within.
So be you. You are okay exactly as you are.
You do not need to change for anyone. Any person who requires us to do such is not worth our time or effort.
Their request for our change does not mean we are inadequate, but simply that they are troubled and ignorant. Their request is solely a reflection on them.
Our unique characteristics and quirks are beautiful. they make us, us. Our flaws are beautiful. They prove we are human. They help us grow, strengthen ourselves, and learn from our mistakes.
The person we are is our most precious treasure. To trade such an entity, is to lose our soul; to betray ourselves. It is the ultimate lie.
“Perfection is a flaw.”
We strive for this ideal. we push ourselves beyond all limits to attain this perceived “perfection”, yet disappoint ourselves, because it is unachievable.
We will never reach it, because it does not exist.
We are human beings. we have flaws; we make mistakes.
If perfection existed, we would be nothing more than robots—thoughtless, predictable, dull, humanoids.
Our flaws and imperfections make life worth living. They give us something to work towards and something to fight for.
If everything was perfect, if this ideal of “perfection” existed, everything would be boring and stagnant—every action expected.
If we were to be “perfect” at everything, there would be no challenge, no thrill, no risk, no struggle, nothing to learn from—and thus no point; nothing to motivate us.
Therefore, perfection not only does not exist, but any desire to attain it is a flaw of character in itself, because as human beings, we are meant to have imperfections.
We are meant to be imperfect.
These flaws are human. They are okay. We are okay.
We can rectify and learn from our flaws and mistakes.
We have that power.
Forever and always.
You do your best when you are having fun and enjoying what you do.
When you are performing or executing it in a way that will not have negative repercussions for you.
You do your best because you want to do it.
Not because you have to.
Not because you are trying to please a judge.
And not because you are trying to make other people happy.
You do your best when you do it for you.
Because it is something you love.
You demonstrate love by giving it unconditionally to yourself. And, as you do, you attract others into your life who are able to love you without conditions.
People will come and go in your life. Some people will treat you well. Others will treat you unkindly. You will accept the love that is there and see lack of love for what it is, a cry for help from one who is hurting. You will encourage others to find the Source of love within as you did, knowing fully that you cannot fix their problems. The tragedy of their lives can only be addressed by their willingness to look within their own hearts and minds.
One who loves without conditions places no limits on his freedom nor on anyone else’s. He does not try to keep love, for to try to keep it is to lose it. Love is a gift that must constantly be given as it is asked for in each situation. And the giver always knows when and to whom the gift is to be given. There is nothing complicated about the act of love. It only become complicated when one starts to withhold love, and then it ceases to be love that one offers.
One who loves himself is not afraid to be alone. For being alone is an opportunity to love and accept himself ever more deeply. If his lover rejects him, does he feel unworthy? Does he pity himself and withdraw from the world, or bury himself in the search for a replacement? No. He simply continues breathing and extending his love at each step in his experience.
One who loves himself unconditionally does not love in degrees or with strings attached. He does not search for someone special to love. He loves everyone who stands before him. One person is no more worthy or unworthy of his love than another.
Sometimes you have to run away so you can see who will run after you. Sometimes you have to speak softer, just to see who’s actually listening. Sometimes you have to take a step back, to see who’s still standing by your side. Sometimes you have to make a wrong decision, to see who’s there when everything falls apart. Sometimes you have to let go of the one you love, just to see if they love you enough to come back.
Take a deep breath, calm down. Take ten steps back from a knife, lighter, or mirror. Turn on your iPod, lay on the floor and take more breaths. You are worth more than this, it doesn’t have control over you. You’re the one who will form your destiny, your own pathways through life. Don’t let shit tie you down or break you. It’s okay to cry, breath again. You’re alive and you’re wonderful.
You make my life stand still for a moment. You make this chaos stop for only a second. You calm me down for as long as I need. And you love me for me, no matter how hard that may be.
Welcome. And congratulations. I am delighted that you could make it. Getting here wasn’t easy, I know. In fact I suspect it was a little tougher than you realize.
To begin with, for you to be here now trillions of drifting atoms had somehow to assemble in an intricate and intriguingly obliging manner to create you. It’s an arrangement so specialized and particular that it has never been tried before and will only exist this once. For the next many years (we hope) these tiny particles will uncomplainingly engage in all the billions of deft, cooperative efforts necessary to keep you intact and let you experience the supremely agreeable but generally underappreciated state known as existence.
Not only have you been lucky enough to be attached since time immemorial to a favoured evolutionary line, but you have also been extremely-make that miraculously-fortunate in your personal ancestry. Consider the fact that for 3.8 billion years, a period of time older than the earth’s mountains and rivers and oceans, every one of your forebears on both sides has been attractive enough to find a mate, healthy enough to reproduce, and sufficiently blessed by fate and circumstances to live long enough to do so. Not one of your pertinent ancestors was squashed, devoured, drowned, starved, stranded, stuck fast, untimely wounded, or otherwise deflected from its life’s quest of delivering a tiny change of genetic material to the right partner at the right moment in order to perpetuate the only possible sequence of hereditary combinations that could result-eventually, astoundingly, and all too briefly - in YOU.
Hopefully, this would stop you from killing yourself. Give yourself some love dear. >:D<
Because we all share an identical need for love, it is possible to feel that anybody we meet, in whatever circumstances, is a brother or sister.
No matter how new the face or how different the dress and behavior, there is no significant division between us and other people.
It is foolish to dwell on external differences, because our basic natures are the same.
When you hold on to anger it takes away from progress in your life and gives you non-stop stress. Let things go but there’s nothing wrong with being prepared the next time you deal with the same person.
You can hold yourself back from the sufferings of the world, that is something you are free to do and it accords with your nature, but perhaps this very holding back is the one suffering you could avoid.
When solving a problem, most of us look at the whole task and feel overwhelmed.
Rather, we need to look at the task’s many parts.
One at a time, we can accomplish any goal we set for ourselves.
Recovery is no different.
Instead of dwelling on the longevity of the process or how difficult abstinence is, focus on the small steps you must take in order to reach your goal of recovery.
Know that recovery starts by setting small weekly and daily goals, and accomplishing them little by little.
There is no such thing as waking up one morning and suddenly being better, all at once.
Recovery is a process.
You are a process.
Life is a process.
And you will get better.
Give the process time, give it determination, and be persistent in your efforts to fight.
Set your first goal today.
The journey towards your freedom starts now.
Self-respect is often mistaken for arrogance when in reality it is the opposite. When we can recognize all our good qualities as well as or faults with neutrality, we can start to appreciate ourselves as we would a dear friend and experience the comfortable inner glow of respect. To embrace the journey towards our full potential we need to become our own loving teacher and coach. Spurring ourselves on to become better human beings we develop true regard for ourselves and our life will become sacred.
We have decided to live.
And each day we make the decision anew.
Each time we call a friend for support or fight an urge to use behaviors.
Each time we attend a support group or show up for a therapy session.
Each time we sit with the discomfort and feel our feelings.
Each time we face our fears and challenge the negative, self-criticizing voice.
Each time, we are renewing our contract with life.
We are being reborn.
Before embarking on the road to recovery, we died, emotionally and spiritually, many times.
Some of us nearly died physically.
But here we are, starting a new day.
We are survivors.
You are a survivor.
There will be days when you struggle with your decision to live.
You will want to give in or give up.
Each day you are given the choice to accept life and recovery.
Though it will not be easy, i promise you that it will be worth it.
That you will never have to fight alone.
And that the battle will become easier with time.
It starts with a small, but potent decision, each day.
The choice to live—and it is yours for the taking.
No one could actually say you deserve better because the best thing that you deserve, will always be your own choice.
“Each second we live is a new and unique moment of the universe, a moment that will never be again. And what do we teach our children? We teach them that two and two make four, and that Paris is the capital of France. When will we also teach them what they are? We should say to each of them: Do you know what you are? You are a marvel. You are unique. In all the years that have passed, there has never been another child like you. Your legs, your arms, your clever fingers, the way you move. You may become a Shakespeare, a Michelangelo, a Beethoven. You have the capacity for anything. Yes, you are a marvel. And when you grow up, can you then harm another who is, like you, a marvel? You must work, we must all work, to make the world worthy of its children.”
—Pablo Picasso
I understand what you are going through. These obstacles though are rough, but once you get through the thick of it all, you will see what you are wanting will be yours. We all have what it takes to be truly happy, but no one is able to focus on it because of all the outside problems we face.
Most of the time we can’t tell what’s wrong with somebody by just looking at them. After all, they can look perfectly fine on the outside while their insides tell us a whole other story.
You are still young. Do not make your life miserable by thinking problems. Instead, always think that in every problem, there is a solution, and everything will all be okay. Do what you think is right. Take risks, try new things, laugh and live life as if there is no tomorrow, for the next years of your life, you will have no choice but to be more responsible so enjoy while you are still young and vibrant.
Being broken hearted doesn’t mean it’s the end. It may mean a new beginning. A new beginning to start a new life without a person you loved, but never letting go of the memories you had with that person. You have to be strong. Being strong means making yourself more open to possibilities and hope for a better life ahead. It will hurt, alright. But just the same, time will heal all your wounds and heartache. You just have to let go and help yourself to make it.
Magic isn’t just a word. I think, it’s more of a feeling when you feel happiness but the word happiness itself cannot justify the feeling you feel, so you feel magic. Magic is everywhere. You just don’t realize it very often.
If you let go a little, you will have a little peace. If you let go a lot, you will have a lot of peace. If you let go completely, you will have complete peace.
Everyone says that love hurts, but that’s not true. loneliness hurts; rejection hurts. losing someone hurts. envy hurts. everyone gets these things confused with love, but in reality, love is the only thing in this world that covers up all the pain and makes someone feel wonderful again.
How do you get that lonely, how do you hurt that bad to make you make the call, that havin’ no life at all is better than the life that you had? How do you feel so empty, you want to let it all go? How do you get that lonely and nobody knows
It’s not about how hard you hit, it’s about how hard you can get hit
It’s not about the mistake, it’s about the lesson
It’s not about what you get, it’s about what you give
It’s not about making friends, it’s about making family
It’s not about how you do it, it’s about how you feel doing it
It’s not about yesterday, it’s about today
It’s not about making the wrong choices, it’s about choosing to do nothing at all
it’s not about who leaves, it’s about who stays.
It’s not about the mistake, it’s about the lesson
It’s not about what you get, it’s about what you give
It’s not about making friends, it’s about making family
It’s not about how you do it, it’s about how you feel doing it
It’s not about yesterday, it’s about today
It’s not about making the wrong choices, it’s about choosing to do nothing at all
it’s not about who leaves, it’s about who stays.
You have to get hurt. That’s how you learn. The strongest people out there, the ones who laugh the hardest with a genuine smile, thoes are the people who have fought the toughest battles. Because they’ve decided that they’re not going to let anything hold them down, they’re showing the world who’s boss.
We practice to learn how to let go, not how to increase our holding on to things. Enlightenment appears when you stop wanting anything
You’ve taught me what it feels like to be hurt and what it feels like to be loved, and what it feels like to have the greatest thing in the world standing right next to you.
“You didn’t love her, you just didn’t want to be alone. Or maybe, maybe, she was just good for your ego, or maybe she made you feel better about your miserable life, but you didn’t love her, because you don’t destroy the people you love.”
—Grey’s Anatomy
Every generation wants to be the last. Every generation hates the next trend in music they can’t understand. We hate to give up those reins of our culture. To find our own music playing in elevators. The ballad of our revolution, turned into background music for a television commercial. To find our generation’s clothes and hair suddenly retro.
There are things that we don’t want to happen but have to accept, things we don’t want to know but have to learn, and people we can’t live without but have to let go.
Have you ever thought about life that way? Every second, every minute, of every hour, of every day. The weeks go by and so do the months. Then it’s a new year. You’re getting older as the time goes by. And quite frankly, time goes by fast , if you’ve ever thought real hard about it. Where are you now? What is your life like? You have so many questions. Not so many answers. Do you often look at people around you and wonder what has happened or what is happening in their life? We all stress about many things, care to much about what other people think. Sometimes I really don’t understand anything and I just want to scream. I know there must be people out there who always seem to feel alone. Sometimes you just need to take those baby steps to the next big thing. Learn from mistakes, or learn something new perhaps. Smile, and be happy. Don’t be afraid even when you think you can’t be anything else but that.
Believe nothing just because a so-called wise person said it.
Believe nothing just because a belief is generally held.
Believe nothing just because it is said in ancient books.
Believe nothing just because it is said to be of divine origin.
Believe nothing just because someone else believes it.
Believe only what you yourself test and judge to be true.
Sometimes you just feel everything and nothing all at once. Sometimes you’ll find yourself smiling while missing something at the same time. At times you can absolutely love a person, all the while wanting to hate them. Life comes without guarantees. Except that smiling will brighten your face, laughing will enhance your eyes, and falling in love will change your life
Perhaps it is true that we do not really exist until there is someone there to see us existing, we cannot properly speak until there is someone who can understand what we are saying; in essence, we are not wholly alive until we are loved.
Each relationship between two persons is absolutely unique. That is why you cannot love two people the same. It simply is not possible. You love each person differently because of who they are and the uniqueness they draw out of you. And the more you know another, the richer the colors of that relationship.
You have to find something. Something that anchors you, something that keeps you looking forward. Even on the bad days, the days when you’re tempted to look back.
It all happens for a reason. So let it be, enjoy the feeling as it comes, breathe it in,
then let it go, just as it came.
Ccause it always goes.
then let it go, just as it came.
Ccause it always goes.
The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.
To want to get better means be ready to face the pain. It is only when you face the pain that you will begin to gain a healthy perspective from which you can then think less distortedly, to the point where you will be able to recognize when you are so triggered as to blur your past with someone in your present. Personal responsibility is key here as well. You must take responsibility for your needs, your wants, your pain, your actions and you must learn that there is no excuse for abuse. Blaming anyone else, even someone who abused or hurt you in childhood is not going to help you heal now. It will not help you meet your needs. It will not help you learn how to maintain relationships. It will not help you to find yourself.
Being beautiful is more than how many boys you can get to look at you, or how much makeup you can wear. It’s about what you live for. It’s about what defines you. It’s about the heart that you have and what makes you special. It’s about those little quirks that make you, you. It’s about knowing that you are a creation of God, created in His image. It’s about shining for Him, no matter what else is going on around you. It’s about going against the flow, and living out what you honestly think. And that is a beautiful thing.
You can’t waste time over missing something in the past. Life changes, people grow up and grow apart, and you accept that. Yet you still can’t stop thinking of how good it used to be; afraid you’ll never experience it again, afraid you’ve already lived it and already lost it
The purpose of life is to watch and experience living. To enjoy living every moment of it. And to live in environments, which are calm, quiet, slow, sophisticated, elegant. Just to be. Whether you are naked or you have a golden robe on you, that doesn’t make any difference. The ideal purpose of your life is that you are grateful - great and full - that you are alive, and you enjoy it.
The most important kind of freedom is to be what you really are.
You trade in your reality for a role.
You trade in your sense for an act.
You give up your ability to feel, and in exchange, put on a mask.
There can’t be any large-scale revolution until there’s a personal revolution, on an individual level.
It’s got to happen inside first.
There are moments in your life that make you and sets the course of who you’re going to be. Sometimes they’re little, subtle moments. Sometimes they’re big moments you never saw coming. No one asks for their life to change, but it does. It’s what you do afterwards that counts. That’s when you find out who you are.
You are beautiful and you matter. It doesn’t matter who is reading this, I know that it’s true for every single person out there. Don’t stop believing in that.
You change for two reasons. Either you learn enough that you want to or you’ve been hurt enough that you have to
“You get in the biggest fights with the people you care the most about because those are the relationships you are willing to fight for.”
I’ve spent my entire life wanting more. Of reaching my hand out for that which I could never reach. Of never being enough. I’ve realized that it wasn’t so much a case of never being able to reach, but of always reaching my hand out again. We always want what we don’t have, and we always will. But acknowledging that fact is half the fight
I’m afraid we’re losing the real virtues of living life passionately, the sense of taking responsibility for who you are, the ability to make something of yourself and feeling good about life.
Your life is yours to create.
It might be true that there are six billion people in the world and counting. Nevertheless, what you do makes a difference. it makes a difference, first of all, in material terms. Makes a difference to other people and it sets an example.
In short, we should never simply write ourselves off and see ourselves as the victim of various forces. It’s always our decision who we are.
There’s a point in your life when you know who stays forever, and who’s just around for a while. People change, but so do you. Sometimes for the best, and sometimes for the worst. Bad things happen to everyone, you’re no in it alone. People lie, and some people just don’t care how you feel. Your heart beats, no matter how much pain you’re in. Everything will be okay eventually. There are always people in your life that just make your day, no matter the miles. I know about distance, I’ve been dealing with it all my life, don’t tell me it’s easy, because it’s not. But it’s worth it. I’d rather keep in touch with the people I love, than just drop it and forget about it. You don’t forget the ones you love. It doesn’t work like that. Give it all you’ve got and live your life to the fullest. People would kill to be you, have what you have, someone always has it worse off than you, but that doesn’t mean that your pain doesn’t count.
I’m thinking that sometimes you just have to make the decision to be happy. Just realize that things aren’t ever what you hoped they’d be. Not ever. For anybody. The only thing that separates one kind of person from another is that there are some who stay angry about it and there are some who accept what comes their way.
“Now there is a living to give instead of to get. As you concentrate on the giving, you discover that just as you cannot receive without giving, so neither can you give without receiving—even the most wonderful things like health and happiness and inner peace.”
—Peace Pilgrim
It wasn’t until I started reading and found books they wouldn’t let us read in school that I discovered you could be insane and happy and have a good life without being like everybody else.
permalink · 11.16.10 01:37pm
This life is what you make it. Not matter what, you’re going to mess up sometimes, it’s a universal truth. But the good part is you get to decide how you’re going to mess it up. Girls will be your friends - they’ll act like it anyway. But just remember, some come, somg go. The ones that stay with you through everything - they’re your true best friends. Don’t let go of them. Also remember, sisters make the best friends in the world. As for lovers, well, they’ll come and go too. And babe, I hate to say it, most of them - actually pretty much all of them are going to break your heart, but you can’t give up becuase if you give up, you’ll never find your soul mate. You’ll never find that half who makes you whole and that goes for everything. Just because you fail once, doesn’t mean you’re gonna fail at everything. Keep trying, hold on, and always, always, always believe in yourself, because if you don’t, then who will, sweetie? So keep your head high, keep your chin up, and most importantly, keep smiling, because life’s a beautiful thing and there’s so much to smile about.
- Marilyn Monroe
Your light is seen.
Your heart is known.
Your soul is cherished by more people than you might imagine.
If you knew how many others have been touched in wonderful ways by you, you would be astonished.
If you knew how many people feel so much for you, you would be shocked.
You are far more wonderful than you think you are.
Rest with that. Rest easy with that. Breathe again.
You are doing fine. More than fine. Better than fine.
You’re doing great.
So relax. And love yourself today.
There are moments of such pure, sublime, unparalleled perfection that they will force you to close your eyes and hold on to them as best you can. Life is a series of these moments. Everything else is just waiting for them.
“Here is my secret. It is very simple: one sees well only with the heart.
The essential is invisible to the eyes.”
– The Little Prince, by Antoine de Saint Exupéry
“We are all looking for answers. In medicine, in life, in everything. Sometimes the answers we were looking for were hiding just below the surface. Other times, we find answers when we didn’t realize we were asking a question. Sometimes, the answers can catch us completely by surprise. And sometimes, even when we find the answer we’ve been looking for, we’re still left with a whole hell of a lot of questions.”
—Grey’s Anatomy(Source: laurynh)
The toughest sacrifices are the ones we don’t see coming, when we don’t have time to come up with a strategy to pick a side or to measure the potential loss. When that happens, when the battle chooses us and not the other way around, that’s when the sacrifice can turn out to be more than we can bear.
“Too often, the thing you want most is the one thing you can’t have. Desire leaves us heartbroken, it wears us out. Desire can wreck your life. But as tough as wanting something can be, the people who suffer the most, are those who don’t know what they want.”
— Greys Anatomy
permalink · 11.07.10 12:29pm
It’s not just other people we need to forgive. We also need to forgive ourselves. For all the things we didn’t do. All the things we should have done.
- Tuesdays With Morrie
“I’d trade everything to have you here. I’d give up everything for the feeling I feel when I’m with you. If I can’t feel it again, then I don’t know what I’d do. Your scent, the feel of your skin against mine, the soft kisses on these warm summer nights. This is what I waited my whole life for. And I’m going to spend my entire life searching for a moment where I feel it again. And this time, when I find it, I’ll never let it get away from me. I will hold him in my arms and take in everything he is. I will feel in love and have a smile that no one else can replace.”
I believe we write our own stories and each time we think we know the ending, we don’t. Perhaps luck exists somewhere between the world of chance and peace that comes from knowing you just can’t know it all. You know, life’s funny that way. Once you let go of the wheel. You might end up right where you belong
Sometimes when life goes downhill and things get crazy, it freaks us out a little and makes us feel like we’re losing grip on something that’s really important - a part of ourselves, our lives and that scares us even more, so we try really hard to hold on tight to whatever we think we’re losing and sometimes, we hold on a little too hard.
(Source: juliagaldo)
I do not think badly of others when they treat me unkindly. Rather, I feel gratitude towards them for giving me the opportunity to train myself to handle adversity.
There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are messengers of overwhelming grief…and unspeakable love.
At some point you will realize that you have done too much for someone, that the only next possible step to do is to stop. Leave them alone. Walk away. It’s not like you’re giving up, and it’s not like you shouldn’t try. It’s just that you have to draw the line of determination from desperation. What is truly yours will eventually be yours, and what is not, no matter how hard you try, will never be.
henzellovestosmile:
Love the way you lie. - Rihanna feat. EminemA lie is always a lie - no matter how prettily it is told or how vastly we want to believe. Fancy language and glittered apologies hide lies underneath the superficial surface. We believe lies not because we are naive, but because the truth is cold. The truth is infinite, and it is absolute. You can not change fact. So, instead of facing the harsh realities of life, we nest in among the glitter and the fancy words. Because those who hunt for truth find nothing but despair.
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Why do we find it so hard to let go? Why do we have such a difficulty accepting the inevitable, dealing with what’s right in front of us - why can’t we get over something we can do nothing to change? I guess we all just hope too much. Hope for the best, hope that he’s still holding on when the truth is he’s long gone, up, up, up and away. There’s a fine line between faith and naivety, sometimes we’re overwhelmed to see that line and so blindly cross it.
I guess, if anything, it’s about taking chances, even when you think you’re all out of chances. It’s about giving forgiveness and unconditional love, even when it seems like you should only do the opposite. It’s about trusting that God puts people in your life at certain moments so that you can capitalize the opportunity. It’s all about the possibility. It’s all about what you do with those possibilities. Life is short, but it moves so fast. Hang on and enjoy the ride. And when someone comes along with whom you enjoy spending the ride with, hold on tight.
Everyone’s wondering where she gets that smile from when everything in her life is looking so downhill. Everyone’s wondering how she can be so happy when it seems like her world is falling apart. Everyone’s wondering how she can keep on laughing when she’s doing things against her own will. Everyone’s wondering how she can light up a room, when he just broke her heart.
Do you ever get that feeling where you don’t want to talk to anybody? You don’t want to smile and you don’t want to fake being happy. But at the same time you don’t know exactly what’s wrong either. There isn’t a way to explain it to someone who doesn’t already understand. If you could want anything in the world it would be to be alone. People have stopped being comforting and being alone never was. At least when you’re alone no one will constantly ask you what is wrong and there isn’t anyone who won’t take ‘I don’t know’ for an answer. You feel the way you do just because. You hope the feeling will pass soon and that you will be able to be yourself again, but until then all you can do is wait.
“You’re letting her think you’re emotionally available. You’re letting her think she has a chance. And there is nothing worse in the world then thinking you have a chance, when you really don’t.”
I want to be the girl who he thinks is the cutest. Not necessarily the “hottest” or the “prettiest”, but the cutest. Because hotness refers to the body, and God knows mine isn’t perfect. Pretty refers to the face and I know plenty of girls prettier than me. But cuteness is referring to every imperfection that he loves. Every weird little habit. The funny little things that make me different from every other girl he could have. Like how I have a dorky laugh, I can’t watch gory movies, or the way my hair smells. All of the little things that he notices and adores. I want to be that girl.’
Peace is not something you wish for; it’s something you make, something you do, something you are, and something you give away.
Nostalgia - It’s a twinge in your heart far more powerful than memory alone. This device isn’t a spaceship, it’s a time machine. It goes backwards, and forwards… it takes us to a place where we ache to go again. It’s not called the wheel, it’s called the carousel. It let’s us travel the way a child travels - around and around, and back home again, to a place where we know are loved.
permalink · 10.29.10 06:51pm
Whatever happens in our lives is what’s supposed to happen. That’s what i try to believe, but no one can prove that’s the truth. Life is uncertain. Sometimes it takes you down roads you never ever thought you would go, ones that make you want to turn around and start over. But sometimes the uncertainty leads you exactly where you need to be; it helps you discover yourself and makes you that much more wise. It can be the worst thing, or it can be the greatest thing. However, the pathways are not put in front of you to follow. They are in your heart; they always have been. Cause at some point, we all have to listen to what our heart is saying. We can try to block it out and forget about it, but sooner or later a day is going to come where it speaks louder than words. That’s when we need to come to acceptance, gather our missing pieces, and leave the ones that don’t fit. That’s when we begin the journey. But see, we can’t just follow our heart. We have to chase it.
permalink · 10.29.10 12:44pm
Stuff your eyes with wonder, live as if you’d drop dead in ten seconds. See the world. It’s more fantastic than any dream made or paid for in factories.
permalink · 10.29.10 12:38pm
Good night everyone. Sorry I wasn’t able to post anything today, and I haven’t answered any tumblr questions. Promise, I’ll get back to them as soon as I’m not busy. Thank you guys for the support. <3
One thing I have learned from God is how to get along happily whether I have much or little. I know how to live on almost nothing or everything. I have learned the secret of contentment in every situation. You know why? It is because God is enough to cover everything.
permalink · 10.29.10 02:01am
So, I guess we are who we are for a lot of reasons. And maybe we’ll never know most of them. But even if we don’t have the power to choose where we come from, we can still choose where we go from there. We can still do things. And we can try to feel okay about them.
The purest and most thoughtful minds are those which love color the most.
permalink · 10.27.10 10:10pm
I’ve learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow. I’ve learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights. I’ve learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you’ll miss them when they’re gone from your life. I’ve learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance. I’ve learned that you shouldn’t go through life with a catcher’s mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw some things back. I’ve learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision. I’ve learned that even when I have pains, I don’t have to be one. I’ve learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone. People love a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back. I’ve learned that I still have a lot to learn. I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.
We skipped stones across the creek, which sounds dumb but it wasn’t. I don’t know. Like the way the sun is right now, with the long shadows and that kind of bright, soft light you get when the sun isn’t quite setting? That’s the light that makes everything better, everything prettier, and today, everything just seemed to be in that light.
permalink · 10.26.10 09:07pm
“We run back to each other when it’s convenient. We know that in the end, we’re meant for each other but not for right now. So we play these games, act like we’re okay when one of us has someone else. When in reality it tears us apart to know that we can be happy with someone else. But it’s that slight hope that we will end up together that always keeps us running back for more.”
Everything happens for a reason. People change so you learn to let go. Things go wrong so you appreciate when things are right. You hear lies to learn to trust yourself. & good things fall apart so that better things can fall into place.
Life is too short to wake up in the morning with regrets. So love the people who treat you right and forget about the ones who don’t. Believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance, take it. If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said it’d be easy, they just promised it’d be worth it.
Take every chance you get. Because honestly no matter where you end up, or who you end up with, it always ends up the way it should be. Your mistakes are what makes you the person you are today. You learn & grow with each choice. Make everything you do worth it. Live your life as if there won’t be any tomorrow. Say how you feel, always be you, & be okay with it.
Having inner peace means committing to letting go of self-criticism and self-doubt. Everything other people say to you about yourself is a reflection of a voice within you. If you find people critical, first ask, is there a part of you that is criticizing yourself? As you let go of that self-criticism, you will experience less criticism from others.
It’s not always that easy to distinguish the good guys from the bad guys. Sinners can surprise you. and the same is true for saints. Why do we try to define people as simply good or evil? because no one wants to admit that compassion and cruelty can live side by side in one heart and that anyone is capable of anything.
I have the feeling of hope. I have the feeling that something good will come, I have the feeling of just getting up and dancing; however I also have the feeling of not knowing. Not knowing if it’s true, not knowing what to expect from you. The feeling of uncertainty. But maybe that’s where I went wrong. Wondering and getting worked up about what hasn’t come yet isn’t gonna make things happen the way I want them to. Nothing is. And even if it gets you nowhere, dreaming and hoping is better than worrying. So dream for what you desire, because things don’t always turn out the way you want them to. Sometimes they turn out so much better.
To all the suicidal lonely people:
Suicide is a permanent solution to temporary problems. Everything in life is just a phase. Some last longer than others. Keep your head up.
Suicide leaves those around you wondering where they went wrong and how they could’ve prevented it. Do you want to make others feel like it’s their fault? You will hurt your loved ones a lot more than you are hurting right now, i promise. So don’t let your problems control you. You can and will overcome them. Sometimes when i think too much, i miss the beauty of life. And i slow down, and think, really think, about all the places i’ve been and the places i will go, and all the people that will change my life, and all the lives i’ll change, and the sunsets i have yet to see and the sunrises i have yet to sleep through and it makes me smile. But the sheer size of the world and all the lonely, lovely people in it, dying unnecessarily by taking their own lives saddens me. I don’t want to lose you too.
Life is beautiful. You shouldn’t throw it away. Have you ever stopped for a moment outside at night, and felt the air pressing on your body, breathed it in as deep as you possibly could, and looked up at the sky? You feel so human. But so alive. I don’t want you to throw your life away, or these feelings we are so capable of experiencing.
And if you look a little closer, you’ll see that if a person believes that life is terrible, they’ll constantly look for proof of this, to confirm their view of the world. they’ll find quotes and situations and events in their life and magnify them a hundred times.
If a person believes that life is wonderful, they’ll look for the corresponding signage and behave in a similar manner to the previous person with their view of the world.
permalink · 10.21.10 12:33am
I guess, if anything, it’s about taking chances, even when you think you’re all out of chances. It’s about giving forgiveness and unconditional love, even when it seems like you should only do the opposite. It’s about trusting that God puts people in your life at certain moments so that you can capitalize the opportunity. It’s all about the possibility. It’s all about what you do with those possibilities. Life is short, but it moves so fast. Hang on and enjoy the ride. And when someone comes along with whom you enjoy spending the ride with, hold on tight.
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Life isn’t a destination, it’s a journey. We all come upon unexpected curves and turning points. Everything that happens to us shapes who we are becoming. And in the adventure of each day, we discover the important things in life and why they’re important.
I spent a lot of time being miserable. It’s like misery’s an old friend. And it tricks you sometimes into thinking that it’s just always gonna be there, and that you can’t be happy. But you can. You can walk away from pain. And i think being love’s the best way to do it. - One Tree Hill
permalink · 10.18.10 09:31pm
Forget relationships and learn how to relate.
In a better world, with more meditative people, with a little more enlightenment spread over the earth, people will love, love immensely, but their love will remain a relating not a relationship.
If you enjoy being with somebody, you would like to enjoy it more and more. If you enjoy the intimacy, you would like to explore the intimacy more and more. But it has to be a commitment from one heart to another heart. It has not even to be verbalized, because to verbalize it is to profane it. It has to be a silent commitment; eye to eye, heart to heart, being to being. It has to be understood, not said.
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