“I Need to Find Myself. K’bye!”

“Hey listen, things went too fast between us. I am not ready yet, I just need to find myself.”

Oh, I see. We can’t date right now because the timing is off for you. Okay, I’ll take the bait on this one, chief.

Send me a postcard from, you know.. wherever you’re going.

Wait, you’re not going anywhere??

I had a long talk with a friend who is going through with this hell-we-are-all-familiar-with dilemma. It has always wondered me why some men tend to be uber-dramatic and tend to give reasons no one really have a decent answer to. It then got me thinking, what actually happens when you “find yourself?”

Is there place where a box is hidden that contains your entire personality and the secret to unveiling true happiness?

No? No box?

Then you must be waiting for some sort of confirmation email. Something like “Congratulations! You have finally found yourself. Feel free to end your selfishness and start considering others feelings again.”

Hmmm… Still no?

Then by any chance you’d want to tell me what’s going on around here? Because you and I both know that you’re BS-ing me.

Oh, what’s that? You’re seeing someone else?

That’s what I thought.

“I just need to find myself.”

Talk about broadness and non-specificity. I myself have heard that one too many times so I know that that’s the most cliché line there is. People use it despite the fact that we all know that we never truly know who we really are on a permanent level. Isn’t it that human beings were thought to spend their entire lives searching for their self-purpose and worth? So why would a lifelong search keep us from committing with someone?

Though I get it that not all the time cheating happens, it’s pretty straightforward that something else is going on that is driving them away – prompting them to give the lamest excuse known to mankind. People who use this are cowards and a-holes who can’t think of a legit reason to walk away on someone. What a shame.

Finding yourself you say? Well, I hope you never do. K’bye!